MOTIVATION & INSPIRATION
By Deion Sanders with Tejado W. Hanchell, Ph. D
It’s Valentine’s Day, Primetimers! Time to talk about one of Prime’s favorite subjects: Relationships. Now, I can almost hear you sayin’ “Prime, #HOP, how you gonna talk to us about relationships when I read on TMZ and every other website that you’re going through a messy divorce?” Well, first thing is you should stop reading all those gossip sites…second, when you see me on there, I’m only responding to rebuff lies with the TRUTH. Lastly, who better to point you in the right direction than someone who’s been down the path you’re headed? There’s a reason your doctor gets sick days…he/she gets sick every now and then too. That doesn’t disqualify them from telling you what you need to do to get well. Today, just call me “Dr. Prime.” I’ve got an NFL and a MLB, and I’m writing you a prescription for love! My prescription is based on the “Principle of Prime” (Yours Truly). Here are a few things you need to learn in order to become a “Prime Mate.”
PRIME equals PRIORITY
Prime means “of the first importance.” PRIME MATES make their relationship their priority. They know that if you don’t put your relationship FIRST…it won’t LAST. In other words, you’ve got to work at your relationship if you want your relationship to work. This requires quality time, or shall I say, PRIME TIME. And this isn’t something you do just to celebrate a special day; this is something you do to make every day special!
PRIME does NOT equal PRIMARY
Primary suggests that there is a secondary. You never want to be someone’s PRIMARY choice…you want to be their ONLY choice! Never settle for being a side dish when you were designed to be the entire meal! For my spades players, don’t count someone as a ‘book’ if they only consider you a ‘possible.’ Don’t make someone your main attraction if they treat you like a sideshow. If they’re only giving SOME of them…why are you giving ALL of you? PRIME MATES don’t settle.
In the Bible, when God created Adam and Eve, He said that the TWO of them would become ONE. That’s the foundation of a successful relationship. All the kids in Prime Prep Academy (Open Enrollment: March 1, 2012 – Shameless Plug J) will learn that two (2) is the first PRIME number. A prime number is a number that can only be divided by the number one and itself. There is nothing or no one that can divide your relationship except you. Stop blaming other people for your relationship problems. If you always blame other people for your problems, you’ll always need other people to solve them. And stop asking your single friends to help you with your relationship problems. First, why are you asking your single friends for advice on your relationship? Asking your single friends for relationship advice is like asking your broke friends for financial advice. Start looking in the mirror and asking, “What can I do to make this relationship work?” The easiest way to improve your relationship is to improve yourself.
Before, the doctor can write a prescription, he’s got to first diagnose the problem. We’ve got to realize that every problem in our relationship has a root. Too often we treat the SYMPTOMS when we need to treat the SYSTEM. Systematic problems in our relationships are far more difficult to deal with than symptomatic problems. Often a symptom is only a sign that there’s a problem with the system. For instance, if you have a hard time trusting in relationships, that’s a symptom which could be a sign of a much larger system of distrust, bitterness, and un-forgiveness in your life. You won’t find lasting succss in your relationships until you deal with the system. You cannot go forward at your optimum speed looking back. There’s a reason your rearview mirror is smaller than your windshield…it’s not suppose to be your focus. Look forward!
A PRIME MATE should be a PRIZED MATE. When God blesses you with a PRIME MATE, make sure you treat him/her like the great prize they are. It’s never wrong to treat your mate right. Whatever it took to GET them…it’s gonna take more to KEEP them. Treat each other with love and respect, and your relationship will flourish. Even if you or your mate has made some mistakes in the past, this is a great time to start all over again and start on the path toward PRIME. However, you can’t get their holding on to the past, and you can’t allow your mate to hold you hostage with your past. If they can’t get past your past…perhaps they shouldn’t be present in your present. As the Apostle Paul says in the Bible, it’s time to forget the past and press toward the prize!
For those of you who are single on this Valentine’s Day, don’t be discouraged. God made the animals two by two…I know He made someone just for YOU. In the meantime, make sure you are preparing yourself for PRIME TIME. Get your finances together. No one wants to marry a hill of bills. Get your attitude together because when the pressure’s on, whatever is in you will come out. Learn to cook. Learn to provide. The best way to find a PRIME MATE is to be one. Ladies, you’ve got to be a WIFE before you ever get to the WEDDING. Fellas, you’ve got to be a HUSBAND before you get to the HONEYMOON. When you’re prepared, great things happen because preparation leads to success!
Tejado W. Hanchell